A funeral is an event that marks an important time in the lives of an entire family. The easiest comparison is to a wedding. Like a wedding, a funeral can take on many forms. A wedding can be a meticulously planned, luxuriant event with a thousand person guest list, full religious service, live band, and a ten-tiered cake. A wedding can also be a trip to the local magistrate with only the bride and groom’s families as witnesses. Either way, they are meaningful because it is an event in a day that marks something important. These events are important because they bring a family together in a positive way by being there for each other. It is these “get-togethers” that literally make a family. Without the event, the family has no time to get together and, thus, has no time for each other. The first type of wedding is more expensive than the second type, but both can be as important and as touching to the people who attend.
A funeral is similar. A funeral can be a traditional affair with a beautiful mahogany casket and two days of visitation with religious and graveside services. It can also be a cremation with no visitation followed by a funeral luncheon at a local restaurant with the person’s family and friends. In either case, the family of the person who passed has an event and a time to get together and be there for each other as a family. The unfortunate thing that we see as funeral directors is when a family doesn’t take that time. The difference in pricing for those two types of funerals is as different as the two examples of the weddings above, but the difference in result isn’t much at all. Both events marked an important time for a family.
Bekavac Funeral Homes is a business, and as a business we are established to make a profit to pay our employees, our bills, and general overhead expenses. We admit that. More so, we are funeral directors because we believe in the value of a funeral to a family. We think that what we do is important. In today’s society, which can be “disposable,” some local funeral homes promote low cost, “no frills” cremations that, literally, put the “dispose” in “disposition.” To not make the funeral into an event, to treat it as if it’s “no big deal,” is to undermine our chosen profession and undermine what makes a family. A family is only as strong as the time it spends together. There are very few times as important as the death of one of its members. We think that everyone should have an event, a funeral, to mark that importance. And that is why we at Bekavac Funeral Home feel that the answer to the question “Do I need to have a funeral?” is a resounding “Yes.”
Memorial and funeral services can be as varied as the lives of the individuals they acknowledge. Every memorial or funeral service can be a unique experience which commemorates the life of a loved one or valued friend. While memorial and funeral services traditionally have been held at churches, synagogues, or funeral facilities, they can be held at many other locations: parks, a friend or family member's home, senior citizen centers, schools, or almost any public place requested by the family.
The memorial or funeral service can be a ceremony which acknowledges the person and involves family and friends. People can participate through music, reading, speaking, or sharing stories about the individual who has died. Unique character traits and how that the person lived their life can be incorporated into the memorial or funeral service. Probably the best answer to the question of, "What kind of memorial or funeral services are available?" is to ask, "What would you like the memorial or funeral service to be?" Any one of our licensed directors can talk with you and help you plan a memorial or funeral service that expresses your needs and desires for remembering the deceased.
Viewing is part of many cultural and ethnic traditions. Many grief specialists believe that viewing aids the grief process by helping the bereaved recognize the reality of death. Viewing is encouraged for children, as long as the process is explained and the activity voluntary.
Final disposition means the entombment, burial in a cemetery or cremation of a deceased human body.
While it is true that some metropolitan areas have limited available cemetery space, in most areas of the country, there is enough space set aside for the next 200 years without creating any new cemeteries. In addition, land available for new cemeteries is more than adequate, especially with the increase in entombment and multi-level grave burial.
When a death occurs, children need to be included in this process. They will have questions that need to be answered and feelings that need to be heard. They may ask questions like: "Why did Grandpa die?" "Where did he go?" "Was it my fault?" "Will I die?" "Who will take care of me if you die?" Try to give children simple answers that they can understand. Sometimes adults make the mistake of saying too much, or offering an answer to a question they haven't been asked. When a child asks questions, be open with your feelings and most importantly encourage them to express their own feelings. Let them know they can ask questions any time. Your answers to their questions are important, but what is more important is the love and concern you give them. Plenty of hugs, attention, and reassurance will comfort children of any age, even if they don't completely understand what has happened. You can help children by encouraging their questions and responding to them with love, patience, and reassurance.